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Ask yourself: What do you REALLY want?

Hi I’m Farrah (and yes I was named after Farrah Fawcett).
 
It was September 2004 when I decided I wanted a divorce. I was DONE!
 
 I couldn’t do it anymore.
 
I couldn’t be unhappy anymore for the sake of a relationship. 
 
It had grown into a toxic monster that was choking me every day.
 
But even after breaking free, I was still trying to prove myself to others, suppressing my emotions and believing I was unworthy. 
 
All the years of internalizing my emotions stacked my stress to a point I couldn’t take anymore and I had a panic attack at work.
 
That was the wake-up call I needed to dive in and begin to understand my own emotions, gain confidence by letting go and take back my inner peace.
 
After my divorce, I grew into a place of empowerment through the ability to S.E.E. Self Emotional Empowerment.
 
This is my own method I discovered with my experience to understand my emotions, heal the relationship with myself, and allow space for deep connections that I longed for in intimate relationships.
 
Now I help women who are ready to connect to their internal GPS to attract the love & life they want.
Farrah Blakely

The Breakup

Coming from strict religious background conformity was supposed to make my life easier.  That absolutely wasn’t the case! 7 years into my marriage with 2 small kids I realized my husband wasn’t the person I thought he was and I was miserable.
What was I going to do? Ruin the picture-perfect image that had been drilled into my head growing up? Do what no other woman would CHOOSE to do?
Yep. I left!
Not being who I was to conform to society’s rules of what my life should look like, that’s not the story of marriage I wanted my kids to see and that’s not the story I wanted to live!
 
 

The Breakout

I went out on my own with 2 young kids creating a new world for myself not knowing anything about anything.
I was scared as hell.
I had no clue what I was doing or if it was going to work out.
The one thing I always knew about myself was that I was a quick learner.
I love to learn and education would take me far, so I went back to school!
I graduated with a Bachelor’s degree and a Master’s degree.

The Breakdown

My response to my divorce was to stuff my emotions way down like they didn’t exist. I didn’t want to bother or burden anyone, no one really understood and I wasn’t secure enough that I could deal with all the contrasting emotions while being a mom.
Plus I had to work, pay bills, take care of kids. I didn’t have time to figure stuff out!
I didn’t have time for the emotional and mental breakdown that I deserved.
I came to the realization that I had attached the fear of failure I had my from my divorce to everything in my life. The story I came up with after the heartbreak of my divorce & that I used as the base for my decisions was… if I work really, really hard I can make up for this bad thing and feel worthy again.
What I learned is that it’s not about working really hard to feel worthy. It’s about understanding that the love you show yourself is the love that shows up in your life to love you back.
It’s about showing compassion for yourself so you know how to show compassion in your co-parenting relationship, to your future husband or partner, it’s understanding that how you talk to yourself after the divorce is all said and done… is how you lay the groundwork for the next phase of your life.
Your breakup didn’t end the good in your life, it allowed you to get rid of a situation that WASN’T good in your life.
 

This woke me up quick!

What in the hell had I been doing all these years with all these so-called expectations, worries, and analyzing to make sure I did the “right” thing?

The Breakthrough

There’s emotional baggage inside that you just can’t shake on your own and it keeps you from being who you really want to be and having the love you really want. But how do you fix that?!
I made the decision to let go, surrender to my emotional wounds to heal, and ask for help. 
I started to see my own self emotional empowerment.
This is how I created my method S.E.E Self Emotional Empowerment. I was tired of being tired but I also felt there was more for me.  I  became certified in reiki, life coaching, and mindfulness. I created a holistic approach on how to thrive after a heartbreak and gain the confidence to have the love and life you want. 
I am so passionate about shortening the process for women to move from emotionally overwhelmed and frustrated to empowered after their relationships. It took me 10 years to get here but it doesn’t have to take you that long.
If you knew there was someone to help you redefine yourself to invite love back into your life, how would you love differently? How would you want love to come into your life? Let’s chat and outline your next steps. Schedule your free chat here
 

I believe all women deserve to be free to be who they really are and get the love they truly deserve.

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