You should be hanging around failures

You should be hanging around failures




“Being human means you will make mistakes. And you will make mistakes because failure is God’s way of moving you in another direction.” – Oprah Winfrey,

Yeah, I said it. You should be hanging around failures. All your life your parents, family members, and teachers warned of hanging around failures. But what can you learn if all you see is what is perceived as perfection or never having had to bounce back? Failure teaches us who we really are when things get tough. This is when character, strength, mindfulness, and faith get activated. Hanging around failures that are resurrecting themselves, rebranding or resuscitating their life is what our world is made of. You cannot mature and grow up if you do not F* * k up at some point in life.

Have you ever known someone that has absolutely no clue of what the real world offers? Someone that you take to be completely naïve or sheltered but really they are scared of life.  They are way past, I mean way past the green age of like 21, 22, 23 when naivety is expected…they’re like 40 and they still do not get it. These are the people that never reached for anything further than what they could see because they were afraid to fail. Failure is a blessing. You’re probably like how is a failure a blessing when people feel ashamed, guilty or isolated when it happens???


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Failure is a free reset button. There is no better excuse to start over in life at any time than after a big failure. The choice is yours but the opportunity won’t last. If you do not realize the blessing of failure and hit the do-over button you miss out on becoming the person you’re meant to be. You end up living in scarcity as a result of the failure instead of living in abundance because you accepted the failure and used it to push you forward.  With failure comes acceptance.

Accept what you learned as a result of falling flat.

Accept that you didn’t know what you were doing.

Accept that you didn’t know anything and thought you were making the right choices.

Accept that you didn’t take the time to learn someone fully.

Accept that you didn’t take time to learn yourself.

Accept that you may have followed someone else’s advice, like a family member that you relied on too much to guide you instead of YOU finding the answers within yourself.

Accept the fact that you just didn’t want to listen and wanted to prove people wrong all for the sake of YOUR ego.

There is enormous value in acceptance after failure. Hit the reset button and start over!

Find failures that are now successful. These are the people that are where you want to be. Find people that went through a ton of crap to make it to the other side with humility, humbleness, mindfulness, strength and character so that when you do fail, and you will, you know it is not the end it’s just a necessary chapter in your story. It is a blessing in disguise and an opportunity the universe is giving you for a do over because they know people are waiting on you, to do what you were born to do.

Do not waste your time hanging around people that failed and never got back up and certainly do not hang around people that refuse to try for fear of failure. Success is a byproduct of failure.

Questions to consider

1) Have you had a recent failure, if so, have you hit the reset button? If not, how has it impacted your life? Answer honestly


2) What valuable lesson did you learn about yourself and about the world after a failure?

Desire is the starting point of all achievement



Everyone has something unique about them. Everyone has something they desire. Regardless if you believe it or not, you were put on earth with a uniqueness that only you have. The Universe, God, Higher Source however  you call it, is not wasteful, and every and any thing that comes from it has uniqueness. That uniqueness within you is your power. What are you doing with your power? Are you helping someone? Are you creating something positive? Are you teaching something positive?

The Universe, God, Higher Source however you call it, does not bless you with a gift or talent just for you, it is indeed for others.

Whatever you desire can be achieved through connecting with others. It sounds weird because people often times cause more problems than solutions, not because they are trying to but because sometimes they lack self-awareness.  Thinking about connecting with people to get what you want in life sounds kind of difficult.

If you change your thoughts to focus on putting what you know out there for others then its not so difficult. To get what you desire  teach what you know, share what you know, do what you know,  and be what know. Pour into someone else to increase their power so you can increase yours.

When you hoard knowledge, you deprive yourself of blessings and growth.” – Kemi Sogunle